This is a memorial site to honour the memory of my darling late wife, Paula Gray. If you have any questions, contributions or suggestions, please contact me.

Contact Info

rob@buttress.me
+44 77 66 410 861

Various friends and family have been kind enough to share their personal memories of their time with Paula:

31 October, 24 12:24 UTCThea Fyfe from Grimsby, Northeast LincolnshireI am so grateful to be part of the family and to have met a very kind caring and generous person as Paula. I still remember the first time we met, she had a huge smile and a warm welcoming hug for me and the kids. When I was struggling with my youngest son having difficulty settling down to UK weather and things. She was always there to give me advice and guidance on what to do. She's like a big sister to me. I will always treasure the memories we shared.
22 October, 24 12:28 UTCBeth from PittsburghPaula was my nurse many times on COPE. She always treated me as a person first, patient second. We would talk about life and current events, and her laugh lifted my mood even in the darkest of times. I will be forever grateful for her kindness and wonderful care.
22 October, 24 10:06 UTCCandyce from Pittsburgh, PAPaula is the 'bloodiest' funniest person Ive ever met! She will be always remembered. Candyce from COPE x
22 October, 24 10:04 UTCAlyssa Holland from Pittsburgh, PAPaula has always been a wonderful guide. My fondest memories of Paula are from a trip to Nicaragua in 2014. Nicola had invited me on a trip - my first time out of the country - and I was fortunate enough to spend 10 days on the adventure of a lifetime with the Gorst family. Paula was always excited to adventure and I recall watching her ziplining, helmet on, and laughing and soaring through the trees. I love remembering her laugh.
22 October, 24 10:01 UTCNicola from NOLA, LAPaula had a heart of gold. She was a wonderful mother, daughter, sister, wife and friend. She was a selfless human who dedicated her life to helping others. She could always light up a room with her smile and wonderful sense of humor.
22 October, 24 09:59 UTCTiffani from Pittsburgh, PAPaula was the sweetest nurse I've every had the pleasure to work with (at COPE)
22 October, 24 09:58 UTCBrynn Daniels from Pittsburgh, PAMaybe not a 'favorite' memory but one that sticks with me: Paula was my nurse at Western Psyche in 2008 and it was so important and supportive to have someone I knew when I was going through a hard time. Paula was the GOAT!
22 October, 24 09:56 UTCStephen from NOLAMy favorite memory of Paula: Travelling through the southern region of the UK we stopped at many amazing cities. We ate delicious meals, absorbed the culture, and made unforgettable memories. Love always, Stephen
22 October, 24 09:54 UTCAlexis from Pittsburgh, PANearly every memory I have of Paula was an impactful moment for me. She was always someone I truly looked up to. One moment I will always be grateful for was a conversation we had when I was expecting my first child as a young parent. She gave me so much confidence and peace that I did not previously have. I will continue to carry those traits in her honor.
22 October, 24 09:51 UTCDarrin Tidrick from Pittsburgh, PAPaula and I worked at WPIC during the 2000 blizzard. Nobody was able to come into work to relieve the overnight staff. Paula had worked the night before. We all thought she had left but at 8 am she appeared out of nowhere like an angel. She had slept in the gym and was able to come bacn and work all day. We were so grateful, after shovelling out my car, I walked down the street and shovelled Paula's car out so she could leave as soon as she finally finished work.
22 October, 24 09:43 UTCRachel Berholtz from San Diego CAPaula was the best friend to me when we lived in Pittsburgh. Our children were friends and we spent all of our time together - two British friends in an American world! We were so sad when I moved to San Diego. She was one of a kind. I will forever miss her!
22 October, 24 09:21 UTCBarbara Watson from Scott Twp, PAI met Paula when she joined our British group. Also I knew her as a neighbour to my friend Ann Platts-Gorst. She, Paula was a great addition to our group and remembered for her very ready smile.
22 October, 24 09:03 UTCJill Bower from Wadsworth OHPaula was part of our British Group in Pittsburgh. Loved her personality and infectious smile. We miss her in our group.
14 September, 24 08:15 UTCMary Shuminsky from PittsburghI met Paula working on the COPE unit at WPIC. We had many laughs together inside and outside of work. We found out we lived close to each other, and would occasionally go out for a chat and refreshment. She had a heart of gold, was sincere, and a true friend. I remember a patient on our unit who was always reporting she was cold, we would always give her extra blankets. Paula brought her in a robe, freshly washed and folded. When this patients husband finally brought her in clothes, she continued to wear the robe Paula brought her. She was so thankful for it. Paula was an Angel to our patients and coworkers. I loved her smile, laugh, and friendship. She was always ready to help! I love her and she will always live in my heart
1 September, 24 02:05 UTCRachel Berholtz from San DiegoPaula was like a sister to me. We bonded over so many things: being British , having young children who went to the same Montessori school, having no family here and sharing a similar sarcastic sense of humor. Simply put we clicked and shared many happy times together. It was really hard to leave her when we moved to San Diego. Paula was a gem. A caring mum and a truly great friend. She is so missed and I hope she knew how much she meant to me. She was the best!
23 July, 24 21:45 UTCHazel Cope from PittsburghI'm so glad I got to know Paula through our membership in the Pittsburgh Brit's group. She was a good friend and a dear person, always ready with a laugh or some encouraging words. I'm sad that she left this world so early but I'm glad she had a wonderful caring partner and family and friends around her. I will remember her.
5 July, 24 21:26 UTCPam Buttress from Uploders, UKDearest Paula. Such a beautiful person and loving daughter in law. Such a joy to have had you in my life. Pam xxxx
2 July, 24 04:11 UTCLizzi from CairnsPaula, I am so grateful for our amazing friendship that has spread over 5 decades. I am unable to think of many childhood memories without you being in them. We were besties. Thank you for your smiles, the laughs, the love, the adventures, the secrets we shared. Miss you x
26 June, 24 06:47 UTCSiri from Oslo, NorwayPaula, I'm so grateful to have met you and it breaks my heart that you had to leave this world so early. I have such fond memories of your wedding and also of having you visit here in Oslo. Rest in peace.
25 June, 24 21:56 UTCRyan Kristiansen from OsloPaula was one of those people who you meet in life that just shine, and make the world a better place. We hit it off immediately, and it was only a bonus that she clearly made my dear friend Rob so very happy. A thoughtful, lovely person who should have been with us for much longer. I am truly glad to have met her and will miss her.
25 June, 24 21:19 UTCNicola Gibbons from Cleethorpes UKMy funny, beautiful, caring, courageous cousin Paula Whenever we were able to meet up distance permitting it's was like we had just left off from the last time. We always had lots of fun and laughs normally over copious amounts of wine with good food with our families making lots of happy memories. Paula will always hold a special place in our hearts Love Peter & Nicola xxxx
25 June, 24 17:28 UTCAnya from SevastopolIt feels like I have known Paula always! One day she just opened her house and heart for me, that was amazing. There are some good things to remember: our trip to Exeter, warm summer evenings on the backyard, the way she played with Anton. Enjoying her life everyday, Paula taught me not to forget to say YES to this life! Miss her so much! Thank you, Paula! We love you!
25 June, 24 16:21 UTCClaire Davies from ThreapwoodWe feel so lucky to have been part of Paula's life with Rob. To see the two of them live life to the full and make up for the years of not being together! A perfect love story that ended way too soon. Forever in our hearts xx
23 June, 24 16:06 UTCPenelope Sayles from PittsburghWell, being RNs together was bonding. Paula-Poo was my work family. We had holidays, overtime nights, weekends and cared for various populations at WPIC. Sometimes it seemed we spent more time together than with our families. We didn't socialize a lot, because of seeing each other so much, at work. You get to know a person, when you see them react under stress. Aside from "Bloody Hell" expletives, Paula just kept on keeping on, cracking jokes, dealing with whatever came next, laughing her great laugh, and shaking that great mane of hair (in whatever color Nicki chose). We shared kid and relationship issues, went through the joys of moving, and knee replacements, and enjoyed a few after hour drinks throughout our friendship. There's never enough time to spend with the people we love, but I hope to smile with every memory of Paula. Rob, you're going to have to fill in for the pub crawl Paula and I planned. Cheers to your big heart and smile, my friend. You made a difference
22 June, 24 15:42 UTCRob from TurnchapelThank you for being ‘the one' x